If the answer is no from you or someone else and possibly this may be some of those people we categorise as Millennials (if you read my articles or online comments frequently you may be aware I’m not really into labels) you or they don’t know where you or they are going in life or at work it can be difficult to start. This doesn’t mean you need to have a goal or objective in the sense of a smart goal as stuckness can come from confusing advice (see more on this below) or the person can’t currently ‘see’ what the end is – there is a technique for that click here.
At times as someone recently admitted to me they couldn’t do what they wanted or what they were asked to do or set a goal because they really wanted to leave the job they were in. On the other hand those of us who know where we are going have a clear focus on that and can at time appear to trample over everyone else to get there. It can also be that you know what you don’t want, what you want to avoid. That’s okay a good coach can help you work with that without requiring you to turn it into something positive immediately.
For those labelled Millennials friends are their source of advice (but that’s not exclusive this will apply to some people of all ages), their reference point, these friends are generally important for helping them make decisions as is the plethora of online (mainly) media, where your friends may be people you have never met face to face (so they may not always be genuine). At times if input from friends (or people he/she knows) is missing the person may find starting difficult. It might be useful to work on how the person knows what to do/what is right when those sources are missing.
Recognition and appreciation from friends is important. Presented with all of the 21st century choices and alternatives and the opportunity to be creative is what keeps most young people going. Creativity comes in many forms and for those older ones amongst us creativity was often frowned upon unless you were in an artistic profession or you are someone who thought to hell with it, I’ll think outside the box anyway. There was always only a right way to do things in previous decades. Finding another way of doing things is often the best incentive for younger people nowadays and also for those of us needing or wanting to find the thing makes our heart sing.
The problem with this can be that distraction or diversion leads us to somewhere else and therefore even though started the project in hand s not completed. It might then be that deadlines are not met at all at times, at others dependent on the individual’s subconscious (LAB Profile©) patterns, deadlines are only met at the last minute.
How do you get people with these patterns to do something?
First tell them why what you have might be useful to them, their career, their company, or their friends.
Then tell them what it actually is you want them to say. Next say how this can be done and finally tell them what completing or doing this will say about them to others i.e. ‘Petra you mentioned that …. is important to you, something came to my mind that you might like. Have you noticed how many people are ………. It seems there are several alternatives open to you (name those alternatives or if you are watching the person and they appear not to like this suggestion or they actually say they don’t like the suggestions then say ‘first you do … then .. and ultimately to complete you…)
Finish with ‘You know you are really great at ………. and others will appreciate you for doing that’.
I hope you found that useful and if you would like to know more please contact me.
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