1. Give Yourself a Present
Yesterday doesn’t exist, except as a memory, memories are very unreliable, have you worked that one out? When you experienced yesterday, it was n-o-w. Tomorrow doesn’t exist either, except in your imagination; when you experience tomorrow, it will be n-o-w. And as it’s all that exists, it’s a good idea to experience it, so… – Sit with your feet flat on the floor, in a comfortable, centred position (spine straight, hands on your thighs or at your sides, breathing comfortably.) With your eyes open or closed, allow yourself to become aware of the different sounds, sights, smells & sensations around you. This is the present moment. This present is the only thing that matters, give yourself this every now and again, focus and you will be better able to cope with life, the world in general.
2. Avoid the ‘shoulds’.
Most of us have a large pile of ‘shoulds’ at home, the things I ‘should’ do, the things he/she ‘should do’, the council ‘should do’, etc. Those things that it’s easiest to shelve off to others, blame others for. What the LAB Profile calls ‘concealed Away Froms’. Things we avoid doing. So ask yourself ‘what’s important that ………..?’. and you know maybe it’s not quite so important and we can survive without it or without it being done and get back into the present.
3. Avoid the ‘I did/made/bought this specially for you’
This is the classic guilt thing, the stuff that the ‘reindeer jumper’ in Bridget Jones’s Diary is made of! The classic whatever type of mother (or a.n. other) comment ‘I spent so many hours in the kitchen making this’, ‘I spent so much money on this’. This is the guilt thing; this can lead to ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ etc. It’s useful to ‘take a mental step back from this’. To perhaps ‘go to the balcony’ ‘or imagine you’re a fly on the wall’ and look at all of this and notice what’s going on and that ‘no; is a good word to use.
4. Think before you open your mouth
Err sometimes it’s just that simple;) Taking a mental or even physical step back can help here.
5. Go on holiday a long way away from anyone else;)
Or just shut yourself away and have some quiet time:0 It’s great no hang over, not over eaten, watched what you wanted on TV, read when and what youw anted and evnif you like tidied the house. Enjoy yourself.
Whatever you do, Peace to you and enjoy.
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